Personally, I find the holiday season is a great time to stock up on lingerie.
While most places have sales designed to attract hoards of desperate male shoppers struggling to find a present for their wives or girlfriends, I usually hit up the discounts with the intention of getting myself a new treat– regardless of the fact if I have a special someone to wear it for. For Blogmas Day 5, here are my favorite lingerie looks.
“Part manual, part manifesto, Feminist Fight Club is a hilarious guide to navigating subtle sexism at work providing real-life career advice for a new generation of professional women. Named one of the best books of 2016 by the Chicago Tribune, Refinery 29, Forbes, Bust + CEO Reads, Bennett blends personal stories with research and statistics, providing a new vocabulary for sexist workplace archetypes and provides practical hacks for navigating other gender landmines in today’s working world.”
“You know the type: the woman who “won’t shut up,” who’s “too brazen,” “too opinionated” – “too much.” She’s the “unruly woman,” and she embodies one of the most provocative and powerful forms of womanhood today. In her book, Petersen uses the lens of “unruliness” to explore the ascension of pop culture powerhouses like Lena Dunham, Nicki Minaj + Kim Kardashian, exploring why the public loves to love (and hate) these controversial figures.”
What do you think, Broke Babes? Love it? Hate it? Want to share your own Feminist Gift Ideas?
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I’m a simple girl, with mostly simple desires– as a broke blogger I generally don’t ask for anything really crazy for Christmas.
But every so often my family gets tired of being handed the same old holiday wishlist that usually consists of socks, new pajamas, and maybe a cozy sweater or two (although let’s get real– if you’ve been peeking at my instagramlately you’ll know I have more than enough of those.)
So to kick off day 2 of Blogmas here’s a special wishlist that I’m sure my mother will enjoy reading: all the ridiculously expensive and never-going-to-happen stuff I secretly want for this holiday season.
This watch would honestly be a dream to have wrapped around my wrist. And at $225 it is probably possible that one day I’ll have it. If any of you are rich and are willing to toss $225 my way, let a girl know.
The year is 2027. My husband, Reginald Jenkins the 5th, has mysteriously fallen to his death down a flight of stairs in our country mansion. As his childless window I stand to inherit over 30 billion dollars. I enter the church wearing this outfit and diamond encrusted sunglasses. Photographers take my picture as I place a hand on his casket, a lone tear straying down my cheek. My bestie, the gay Pope, snaps a candid and posts it to my instagram. Somewhere in the distance an acoustic version of Beyonce’s “Crazy in Love” plays.
I mean, I love the concept of this mirror. Rose gold? Lip-shaped? We all know those are two of my favourite things. But looking at it now I can only think about how inconvenient it would be to take a selfie in– and we all know how important selfies are to me.
I just… I don’t even know why I want them. They’re beautiful, but I have no clue what I would do with them. Take instagram photos? Put in a display case? Auction them off and donate the money to prevent world hunger? Who knows.
What do you think, Broke Babes? Love it? Hate it? Want to let me know?
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It’s that time of year again: there’s frost on the window panes, hot chocolate in your cup, and another blogger is here to harass you with daily Blogmas posts!
For those of you who don’t know what Blogmas is, let me explain– it’s basically a one month challenge where bloggers try to post about all things Christmas at least once a day. Sounds easy? Well, it’s not. I usually give up around the 7th.
Still, I’m back at it again! To kick off this year’s Blogmas I’m dropping my Christmas list! Affiliate links are present, so click to shop!
I am a big fan of having a positive attitude in the face of adversity, and if spending $50 on wall art makes me feel better about my lack of money, so be it. This also functions as a deterrent for anyone who insists labeling me as “the rich friend” just because I work 3 jobs. Spoiler alert: I am working those jobs because I’m broke as hell.
It’s like a house coat. But it’s a cape. A Princess cape. Also it has a hood, so while wearing it I wouldn’t have to do my hair. I feel like if you don’t want this something is seriously wrong with you.
Update: my mom came up behind me and saw this. “You want to wear this?” She sighs, shaking her head. “This is why you’re single.”
I’m pretty much known for my infamous going-out glow, so I’m pretty sure this Pixi Glowtion can bring some of that night time fabulousness into the day. Getting your glow on is basically a human right at this point, right?
Okay this is definitely the most serious thing on this list… But it’s also the most expensive. If any of you have $450 to blow and are feeling generous, please buy this for me. I’ll tag you in all my instagram posts, I swear.
Let me preface this with the following: F*ck 2016.
Remember earlier in the year when Kylie Jenner dubbed 2016 the year of realizing things? At the time I, like this rest of the world, laughed this off. But, oh my god, Babes. The B*tch was right.
Honestly, completely disregarding world affairs in general– like Donald Trump getting elected, Kanye’s meltdown, the Brangelina divorce, just to name a few– this year has sucked in lots of little ways for plenty of people, and I’m pretty sure we’re all counting down the days till the New Year.
On a more personal level, I’ve dealt with my fair share of garbage this year– between financial struggles, academic stress, and the 1-2 punch of long standing friendships letting me down, 2016 has put me through more than enough. There have been plenty of times this year when I’ve been so knocked off my feet by what life has thrown at me that I’ve felt like giving up altogether.
… But listen. All the bullsh*t of this year has forced me to come to terms with a lot of fear, anxieties, and self-doubt. And you know what? I gotta hand it to my girl Kylie– coming face to face with all that bad stuff did force me to realize a lot things: about myself, others, and the world in general.
Although I definitely need a break from the blogging scene around the holidays, I figured I’d make my last post of 2016 a positive one. Here it is Broke Babes: My 5 Realizations and Revelations of 2016.
Flaws are Necessary for Success
Saying “Nobody’s Perfect” is about as cliche as I can get here, but let me clarify– we all know flaws are the foundation of our personality. Without flaws we would be completely uninteresting blank slates; they’re what make us unique.
Our flaws are what push us towards finding our strengths. For example, I’m notoriously stubborn– once I get something in my head it’s hard for me to shake. I’ve always hated this about myself, but this year I’ve realized that my being stubborn has led to a refusal to give up– on myself, on my friends, on goals I want to accomplish. Some of the best things I have in my life are the direct result of my refusal to let things go, and without this flaw I wouldn’t have them.
It’s easy to get down on yourself for not being perfect, but trust me– sometimes our flaws are just waiting to steer us in a direction we’re meant to go in.
Be Gentle With Yourself
We live in a culture that always insists on screaming for more: from childhood we’re pushed for better grades, for better friends, to be better looking, for a better job, a better pay, a better guy. In a world where we’re constantly pushing to be the best it feels like anything we accomplish gets dismissed because we aren’t there yet.
I’m going to tell you a secret: nobody knows where the f*ck there is.
When I was at the low point of my battle with depression a few years ago I felt like I was stuck at a complete stand still; my peers were out graduating from University or launching their careers or finding the perfect guy. And where was I? Struggling to get out of bed. Shaking so hard I couldn’t do my University assignments. Skipping class to try to sleep– even though I hadn’t in days.
I felt like I was lagging behind everyone when the fact of the matter is that everyone moves through life at their own pace– sometimes when you’re at your lowest your best is something as simple as getting out of bed to make a cup of tea, or handing in an assignment that’s over due, or finally, FINALLY, falling asleep.
In 2016 my mental illness resurfaced, and battling my way to recovery is something I’m struggling with even as I write this. But I’m done kicking myself for not being where the rest of the world thinks I should be– this is where I am, and it’s right where I’m supposed to be. One thing I’ve realized is that I’m never going to find my best if I don’t start being kinder to myself.
And honestly? F*ck what the rest of the world thinks is the best. Focus on what is your best, and don’t dismiss the small things you manage to get done along the way.
Walking Away is Brave
I’ve put up with a lot of sh*t this year– but there’s something about having it come out of the mouth of someone you trust and respect that makes it especially hard to deal with.
If there’s one thing 2016 has shoved repeatedly in my face it’s that people change, or turn out not to be who you expect. People who once cheered you on will be afraid of how far you’ll go; others will try to diminish your success or dismiss it as a fluke. I know from first hand it’s the worst feeling to have something you’re proud of and excited about be turned into a point of conflict or hurt.
But life is too short to let these people hurt you.
Letting go of friends, careers, boyfriends, and loved ones is hard– I’m not gonna lie, it’s about as sucky as it can get. And it’s scary to stand up for yourself too. But it’s much worse to spend your life unhappy, feeling lousy, or like you’re limiting yourself because of someone’s bad attitude.
Walking away means moving on and opening yourself up to better things– and even more, acknowledging that you are worth all the happiness you’re looking for.
Asking For Help Does Not Equal Weakness
I hate asking for help. It’s just not the way I am– I don’t like playing the Damsel in Distress, and I don’t like owing anybody sh*t.
It took me most of my life to realize that this was actually a really toxic mindset; everyone, everyone, needs help at one time or another, and dealing with my problems alone only sunk me further into feelings of intense stress and hopelessness. I spent a lot of my lowest points shutting people out because I didn’t want to appear weak or like I couldn’t handle it.
But in reality it can be really liberating to ask for help; when I finally broke down and admitted to some close friends that I had relapsed into my depression I felt a huge weight lift off my shoulders. There was no longer this huge pressure to hide from others that I was struggling– and I ended up opening up a whole support system that’s still helping guide me through rough water.
Asking for help when you need it is a mark of incredible bravery and strength– even if what you need help with is as simple as reading over some writing, or with planning a dinner. Like I said before, it’s all about being gentle with yourself.
Happiness Doesn’t Need to be Approved by Anyone
If I could ban one question from the English language it would be, “So what are you doing?”
I f*cking hate when people ask me this. It immediately has me scrounging the back corners of my mind for something I having going on that would seem in some way legit to broader society as a whole– which, let me tell you, is a hard group to please. I’m always left mumbling something about school or writing and the other person ends up giving me this stupid looking nod that seems to silently scream, “That’s all?” Then they ask me what I want to do, as if what I just said isn’t what I currently want to be doing.
I just f*cking hate this. If you’re one of these people who asks this, go to hell.
I can tell I’m sounding bitter. Perhaps 2016 has finally broken me the way it’s been threatening to do since last January. But I’m tired of having my joy squashed by the opinions of others, be it through small talk or otherwise. One thing I’ve realized is that nobody, not even me, should give a f*ck about what I’m doing as long as it makes me happy.
The world would be a much happier place if people stopped asking what we’re doing, and instead focusing on how we’re doing, don’t you think?
What do you think, Broke Babes? Love it? Hate it? Realize some things of your own?
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If you’re anything like me, the fast approaching holidays are a cause for both celebration and financial despair.
Look, as much as I love the general spirit of Christmas, I find it incredibly difficult to tame my spending habits from year to year– I’ve spent quite a few holidays going absolutely nuts with present shopping, home decorations, and big heavy dinners only to discover come January that I’m absolutely broke.
I’ve gotten better about my spending the last few years– which might have something to do with growing up, maturing, and the crazy kind of frugality found only among the stars of extreme couponing and University students– and rather than keep my secrets of financial success to myself I figured I’d share them with the masses.
Make a List– & Check it Twice
I know it may seem pretty obvious, but having a list of who you’re shopping for is one of the few things that really helps that often gets easily over looked. Sure, you’re buying for your family, but what about your friends? Your boss? Co-workers? Neighbors?
Not only does a list help keep you focused, it also helps prevents the f*cking heart wrenching and dreaded moments of realizing you’ve overbought for someone, or forgotten someone else.
Be Real About Your Budget
Now that you have your list, it’s time for a real and very frank examination of your bank account.
If you only have $200 dollars to spend this year, you’re going to have to be honest with yourself– be prepared to face the reality that not everyone on your list will be getting a $75 dollar gift. Sit down and be the bitch you have to be– decide who you are going to spend your more serious cash on, who you’re going to cut back on, and– if necessary– who you simply can’t afford to buy something for.
Establish a Limit
And alternatively– be honest. If you can’t afford to buy someone a present, or maybe have to lower the limit of what you’re willing to spend, LET THE OTHER PERSON KNOW. Nothing is worse that opening up a new sterling silver watch and realizing you forgot to tell the other person you could only drop $25 on them.
It may be an awkward talk to have, but setting a spending limit makes everything easier. My parents generally insist I don’t spend more than $40 on them, while my friends and I have had some pretty killer Christmases on $20 or less.
The most important thing is to be honest about what you can spend– any person worth buying a gift for will be understanding, and will probably appreciate the heads up not to drop a ton of cash on you in return.
Ask What’s in the Box
You don’t need to know specifics, but sometimes knowing the type of present someone is getting you makes it way easier to shop for them. Are they getting you one big thing? One small one medium? A bunch of small?
One year I dropped all my cash on a really nice sweater for my brother, and he ended up getting me a bunch of low budget gifts that were really thoughtful– despite the fact that were spent the same amount of cash, I still felt awkward sitting there unwrapping for a good ten minutes. I know it sounds silly, but knowing how another person is planning on distributing their cash on you makes it easier for you to reciprocate with the appropriate gift back.
Deals on Deals
I know we all dread the mall, but the fact of the matter if that larger scale shopping tends to have the better deals. And if you’re looking for something really specific for someone, they can be really handy.
Starting Black Friday onward, almost every store (in person and online) will have some kind of deal in an attempt to clear out their winter merchandise. Don’t be afraid to shop around or scroll online to find the best possible deal on anything specific you’re looking for.
If you don’t have the perfect gift in mind, it can also be to your advantage to go in person and scope out a retailer before you buy– big box stores, boutiques, and almost any shop will have their Holiday merchandise out by early November. Plus, stores are full of employees who can tell you when Holiday sales are going to start and what they’re going to discount before it happens, which might make it easier to pinpoint a direction for your present buying. Do your research!
A lot of my best Christmases have been the ones that were less than traditional present wise. My boyfriend and I once halved the money we were going to spend on each other, pooled it, and spent a whole night eating, drinking, and dancing at the best clubs in our city.
Some years my friends and I skip the presents altogether and spend time together– sometimes we go out for a low-key dinner, sometimes we get the whole gang together for cookie baking and movies. One year we dubbed the season “Not Christmas” and deliberately bought each other trinkets and other crap from the dollar store with the goal to be the giver of the worst present– nothing beats the look on someone’s face when they unwrap a defaced Barbie doll, an old butternut squash, or an expired calendar.
One thing about Christmas that I’m not crazy about is the fact that it can so quickly become all about the money– and if you don’t have a ton of cash, this can make you feel like you aren’t doing the holidays right. However, if you take the time to plan and maybe get a little creative, you can still have a ton of fun and beat the bank in the process.
What do you think Broke Babes? Love it? Hate it? Want to hear more about Not Christmas?
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You know her coffee order by heart. You know the story of her last disastrous date so well you could turn it into a full length film. You know her favorite perfume, her dress size, and exactly what she’s thinking with just a look.
I get it. Sometimes no matter how well you know your best friend it’s sometimes weirdly hard to buy her a present.
To kick off #blogmas, I figured I’d start with 20 Christmas presents perfect for you, your best friend, or hell, any woman on your list. Whether you’re looking for stocking stuffers or something a little bigger, here’s 20 gift ideas for the Broke Babes on your list.